When i was younger, i had a lot of friends from my neighbourhood, playing with them was pure bliss. I couldnt wait to get home from school to see them, watch tv with them and of course, play different games with them. When we were younger, it was only natural that we bonded. Making a friend was as simple as saying hi or asking how old are you and finding that the other person is the same age as you. You get excited and you want to know what else you have in common, then that new friend may introduce you to their other friends and just like that, you have a group of cool new friends.
As you age you'll learn that finding and keeping a good reliable friend gets harder. Life happens, responsibilities eat away your time and you realize that its not as simple as it was before to just stay in touch. Now you have to schedule months in advance just to meet up with a friend for an hour or 2. Your time is limited, so you want to spend your time with someone you value that values you in return. You just wont have the time or energy for a friendship that is no longer growing.
We have to realize this truth, just like an old shirt that no longer fits us and we have to let it go; we have to let go of friendships that we have outgrown or simply just dont work anymore. Of course, you wouldnt want to just give up on your friend without trying, so you put in the effort, you call, text etc. and this friend just doesnt put in an ounce of effort. In time you'll see its time to let go. As my sister would say, "that door is closed", that person isnt up for being friends with you anymore. So without any other choice, you let go, you move on. It will take time, it will hurt but this is the perfect opportunity for you to build a friendship with yourself...
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